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CHRISTIAN PARENTING SERIES
PART II
DISCIPLING REASONING CHILDREN

INTRODUCTION

Follow the Crowd? ~ Follow the Lord!


  1. Parenting Young Children
  2. Discipling Reasoning Children Introduction
    • Transition to Standards of Conduct
    • Develop the Tool of Home
      • Example of Honoring (Do Extra)
      • Example of Honoring (Faithfulness)
      • Example of Perseverance
      • Examples of Coming Alongside
    • Rejoice in Reality
    • A Conversation Between Two Moms
  3. Releasing Steadfast Children
  4. Celebrating Established People of God


When discussing child-training issues, it is helpful to differentiate between “rules” and “Standards of Conduct.”

Why?

Because rules lead young children to understand right and wrong, and Standards of Conduct lead reasoning children to more evaluative thinking about heart matters.

We act upon what we believe to be true. As Christians, we know that Truth is the Person of Jesus Christ. Godly principles are found in Him, the Living Word, and confirmed through the Holy Spirit in the written Word, the discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

One way to parent your children (who are beginning to reason) so Christ’s character is formed in them is to

move children
from being rule-followers
to becoming Life-giving principle-based people.

The principles of the kingdom of God are like the skeleton that holds our Christian walk together, as we stand on the Foundation Who is Truth, Jesus Himself.

Without the skeleton of principles, though, we are like gelatin, just shaking instead of being able to move freely through our Christian walk. It reminds me of the Far Side cartoon entitled "Boneless Chicken Breast Farm" where all the chickens are flopping on the ground because they are boneless, without a skeleton.

Also, without the skeleton of Life-giving principles, we ourselves and our children are more susceptible to follow the crowd and receive

  • the lifeless teachings from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, which cause us to be tossed about by the ever-changing opinions of the world, which often redefine evil and good based on culture; and/or

  • the oppressive teachings of men and women who promote following the Letter of the Law rather following the Spirit of Liberty.
  • Training young children through rules that are carried out by parents practicing a grace-based mindset and moving to Standards of Conduct as children begin to reason will ground children because they are being edified or built up in the principles of Life and Love Himself.

    During their young adult lives, they will be equipped to make decisions from these Life-giving principles that will serve them for the rest of the adulthood. Instead of following the crowd, they will follow the Lord. To God be the glory!

    MOM’S GROWTH

    Mom, too, has the opportunity to grow while parenting reasoning children. Will Mom follow the crowd or follow the Lord? There are many good programs available, many good schools, many good mentors—many voices beckoning, “Follow me!” But before following these voices, Mom can ask,

    Will this choice bring His Life to my heart and home
    and the hearts and lives of my children?

    A mom who abides in Christ will receive the wisdom for her particular relationships and circumstances as she develops the tool of home, and she will learn not only to hear the Voice of the Lord but also to follow Him. His Life will overflow from her heart into the lives of her children and the lives of others in her sphere of influence.

    Mom will not be tossed about by every wind of teaching as she is established in the Foundation Who is Christ, as she seeks Christ as her Head/Source for all things, and as she is edified and built up by the principles of sound doctrine.


    PRACTICAL IDEAS FOR THIS SEASON

    This season of discipling children who are beginning to reason builds upon the parenting of young children. Continue to root yourself in the life of the Lord Whose love will fill you to overflowing. As you are released to receive His love and then give that love from the overflow of your heart, your own heart will be opened to discern sound doctrine.

  • Train your children who are beginning to reason through ministering to their hearts with principles outlined in your home’s Standards of Conduct.

  • Develop the tool of home, the door to working out the Standards of Conduct.

  • Embrace the reality of your circumstances and relationships.


  • Teach us, Lord, to identify and walk in principles
    that move us and our children forward
    and grow us into mature and useful vessels for Your kingdom,
    ready to be used by Your Spirit
    Who gives sight, heals, and sets captives free
    as we are edified by sound doctrine.

    We are to grow up in all aspects into Him,
    Who is the head,
    even Christ.
    ~Ephesians 4:15

    If you would like a more structured approach
    to reading these articles,
    please sign up for the
    Discipling Reasoning Children Reading Guide
    at the bottom of this page.

    You will receive an email once a week for seven weeks.

    The Guide suggests an order for reading the
    Discipling Young Children,
    Releasing Steadfast Children,
    Celebrating Established People of God
    articles listed below
    and includes personal meditation suggestions
    to practically apply Life-giving principles in your daily life.


    Four-Part Series
    Mom’s Growth While Raising Children

    Links and Navigation Help

    1. Parenting Young Children
      My Child ~ His Child

    2. Discipling Reasoning Children
      Follow the Crowd! ~ Follow the Lord!

    3. Releasing Steadfast Children
      Stewarding My Child ~ Releasing His Child

    4. Celebrating Established People of God
      My Child Established ~ His Child Established



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